NLP
What NLP actually is
NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming) is, in simple terms, a collection of techniques used to understand and improve the relationship between a person's thoughts, language, emotions and behaviour.
In plain terms, NLP is a way of working on the habits of the mind.
Each of us carries a map of the world. It is built out of our experience, out of things we were told, and out of decisions made in childhood. We navigate by that map, and we usually forget that it is a map and not the world.
When something keeps going wrong, the problem is rarely in your intention or your effort. It is usually in a part of the map that has gone out of date. The work of NLP is to find that part and redraw it.
What it is not
It is not treatment. Depression and other clinical conditions belong with doctors and clinical psychologists, and I refer people to them.
It is not magic either. A life does not change in one session. What changes is that you leave with a tool you did not have before, and you have to work it yourself.
And it is not a motivational talk. Nobody chants anything. Most of the time is spent asking questions and listening quietly.
What it is used for
- Better understanding within relationships
- Low confidence and hesitation
- Negative thinking and limiting beliefs
- Certain techniques for fears and phobias
- Managing anger better
- Skills for coping with stress and worry
- Changing bad habits and behaviours
- Understanding the effect of unpleasant past experiences
- Improving relationships and communication
- Fear of public speaking and presentations
- Motivation and goal setting
- Decision making and problem solving ability
- Improving self image and self talk
It is not correct to treat NLP as a cure for every psychological or medical condition. The scientific evidence is not equally strong for every technique. For depression, severe anxiety, PTSD or other mental illnesses, it is not considered a substitute for proper treatment from a psychologist or doctor.
Relationship Mindset
Better thinking is the foundation of better relationships
A relationship is not only love, emotion or attachment. A healthy relationship is built from understanding, trust, respect, effective communication and the right mental attitude.
In most relationships the problem is rarely a lack of love. It is usually a lack of understanding each other, keeping expectations balanced, managing emotions, and communicating well.
For that reason, Relationship Mindset Sessions and Relationship Counseling are offered, helping a person understand their relationships from a new, more balanced angle.
Relationship Mindset Session
In these sessions we work through questions like
- Why do we keep making the same mistakes in our relationships?
- How does the way we think shape our relationships?
- Why do unnecessary expectations create distance?
- How is trust built, and how is it strengthened?
- How can anger and emotional reactions be handled better?
- What does communicating well actually look like?
- How do you stop a disagreement turning into a conflict?
- What are healthy boundaries, and how do you set them?
- How do past experiences shape the relationships we are in now?
- What actually separates a toxic relationship from a healthy one?
Relationship Counseling
What the sessions work on
Personal relationships
- Trust issues
- Disagreements that keep recurring
- The communication gap
- Emotional reactions
- Boundaries and expectations
- The effect of past experiences
Marriage and family
- Misunderstandings between husband and wife
- Ongoing disagreements
- Difficulty talking to each other
- Mutual respect and trust
- Problems caused by family pressure
Personal growth
- Self awareness
- Emotional intelligence
- Confidence
- Decision making
- Understanding your own relationship patterns
What this is for
The aim is never to tell someone what decision they must make. It is to help them understand their own thinking, emotions, behaviour and relationships more clearly, so they can make more conscious, more balanced decisions themselves.
A better relationship begins with better understanding.
If you want to understand your relationships better, recognise the negative patterns that keep repeating, or work on your communication and relationship mindset, these sessions can be a useful place to start.
Get in touch for a Relationship Mindset Session
Note: this counseling is for general guidance and personal growth. For severe mental, medical or psychological conditions, referral to a qualified psychologist or medical specialist is necessary.
Credentials
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Ismail Haji Certified NLP Master Practitioners
Accredited by NLP Association of Excellence (NLPEA), United Kingdom
Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming
Certified Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming
NLP Life Mastery Program, Advanced Level
NLP Life Mastery Program, Practitioner Level
Psychological Health and Mental Care
Clinical training in psychometric evaluation, counselling and psychotherapy
Personality Development Course
Art Therapy Seminar
Sleep Disorder Workshop
Autism Workshop, one day online
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